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Questioning the Double Standard – Why Men Are Praised, While Women Are Judged for Having Children with Different Partners?
When a woman has a child out of wedlock or if she happens to divorce with a child or two then she鈥檚 in for a life of trouble. She not only has to figure out her finances alone but she also has to figure out her love life where she will be harshly judged and […]
Are You Suing for Child Support for the Wrong Reasons?
Before becoming a mother, I used to think that suing for child support was always as straightforward as men refusing to pay for upkeep and that women in such cases were almost always the victims. Fast forward to a wiser, older me and I鈥檝e noted that people use kids for all the wrong reasons and […]
Instead of teaching kids about 鈥榮tranger danger鈥� you need to teach children to spot bad behaviour everywhere
The number one safety rule that we teach our kids is to not talk to strangers. This topic is usually a bit confusing for kids because who is a stranger anyway? Is it the person you鈥檝e never seen before? Or is it a person you don鈥檛 know too well? As you get older you learn […]
The Unique Role of Fathers: Why Mothers Can’t Replace Them
I used to be one of those mums who would wish mothers a happy Father鈥檚 Day, as a matter of fact, I almost formed a committee of single mothers who doubled up as dads as well. People forget that for every single mother, there鈥檚 a man who either didn鈥檛 take responsibility, passed away, is ill, […]
Breaking the Double Standard: Why Fathers Should be Held to Equal Standards as Mothers
When I became a mum, there was this weight placed on me from day 1, it felt like there was a stash of perfectionism and instincts that I had received as soon as I birthed my son. It鈥檚 all in the comments people make as they remind you that you were created for this moment, […]
The Truth About Motherhood: Why It’s Okay to Not Love Every Moment
I wasn鈥檛 one of those girls who played with dolls and thought, 鈥淲ow one day I want to do this all by myself鈥� Instead, as a firstborn, I thought about how much I wanted a sister and thankfully, my little sister was born, she was such a blessing to my life despite our age gap. […]
The Unpaid Labour of Motherhood: Why Stay-at-Home Mums Should Receive a Salary
Before becoming a mum, I said things like 鈥淲hy should stay-at-home mums get paid?鈥� I spoke from a point of ignorance and many times I imagined that all they had to do was stay home and sleep. As girls are raised to become women, this dream is sold to them, the dream is that staying […]
Staying married for the kids is not the right thing to do
I had a friend who had two kids and a financially stable husband and she was a housewife. She was the kind of traditional wife who would do everything for her unloving husband and her loving children. The first time Brian laid his hands on her, she was heavily pregnant, she stumbled on the table […]
Gentle Parenting Sets Unrealistic Expectations on Parents and It鈥檚 Time to Stop
I was brought up in a strict household, sometimes a bit too strict. The level of strictness sometimes felt unnecessary and conjured as a way of relieving stress. If you grew up with authoritarian parents, you know exactly what I mean. This kind of style meant that you never questioned what went on. Your main […]
You鈥檙e Never Too Old to be a Father: Shemar Moore is Officially a Dad at 52
They say age is just but a number. They also say (whoever ‘they’ is) that you should enjoy the days of your youth because you’ll be curtailed from doing so many things when old age starts creeping in. Shema Moore would however beg to differ. At 52 years of age, Moore welcomed a bouncing baby […]
How Social Media Can Ruin Your Motherhood Experience
I didn鈥檛 want to share my bump photos on social media, partly because I knew my mother鈥檚 distant relatives followed me (and everyone knew I wasn鈥檛 married), but I remember feeling remote and lonely every time I saw boisterous photos of mothers holding their baby bumps high with pride, I felt sorry for myself. I […]
It is Scary but You Need to Tell Your Child about Their Absent Dad
Sooner or later the question comes up and it comes up when you least expect it. It will come up when you鈥檙e in the middle of folding laundry while watching Oprah or Top Gear and your child will ask 鈥渃an I ask you something?鈥� you鈥檒l think that they鈥檇 like another fruity loop but instead the […]